Mom, why do we need another store?

When my son heard that our town council has approved a rezoning request to allow Walmart to open one of their stores on an already busy and overtaxed intersection, he asked: “Mom, why do we need another store?”

The short answer is “we don’t”… but that is not enough to change the minds of the folks in town hall who have been sold on the idea when they gave into their fears.  The council voted to change the zoning from desert rural (i.e. residential with one house per acre approx) to commercial ignoring the pleas of residents who find themselves adjacent to the proposed loading bays, of a 24 hour retail giant.

I drive my children to school daily through an already overtaxed intersection and narrow streets where gridlock is a common occurrence.  School has only been in session less than three weeks and already I have seen two car accidents.   I can’t imagine what the addition of large semi-transport trucks will bring to our already chaotic set of junctions.

I love my town and I am saddened to see people divided, acting out of fear, and losing sight of what’s important in life.  I hope people care enough to educate themselves on what is at stake here.

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NVC – The first couple of days

It’s always happened to me when I put my intention on doing something that the Universe provides…


The last few days have been a constant test, and it feels at times that I’m failing miserably.  The upside is that I’m learning a lot.  I’m doing the course with a friend/colleague and it’s been great having someone to discuss the exercises with.  It has also been a comfort to see that we are both being tested in similar ways.  The best moment today came when Marshall tells an anecdote of a time when he was triggered to react… and how he used it as an opportunity for learning. 


My son after his KunFu lesson asked me tonight: “mom, do you know the difference between a reaction and a response?” 


“I think I know but I’m interested in hearing what you think it is.” I replied.


“The difference is that one involves thinking and the other doesn’t”.


Interesting that I can manage to apply NVC successfully when I take the time to respond rather than react.


There is so much information on NVC that is already available online that instead of typing a synopsis here, I’m going to provide a few links.  Enjoy.

For information on Marshall Rosenberg, visit The Center for Nonviolent Communication website at

I bought the training course from Sounds True, one of my favorite sources for quality publications.  Here’s a link to the actual page for the NVC home training course from Sounds True.  If you sign up for their newsletter, they have specials for discounts and free shipping.

Twitter coverage on NPR

This morning on NPR they were talking about Twitter.  Yes, this may be old news to you but humor me, I’m so behind! You have to say things in 140 characters… it’s almost the antithesis of a long conversation but it really shocked me how much can be said in 140 characters. 


Here’s an exerpt of what caught my attention:  “Alexander Aciman and Emmett Rensin, two University of Chicago students, have written Twitterature: The World’s Greatest Books in Twenty Tweets or Less, which will be published in January.


If you have time, check it out.  The article is entitled Sharing Culture One Tweet at a Time.  read/listen at

“It is better to be kind than to be right”

My husband always shares with me this quote attributed to the Dalai Lama.  I agree with that statement but find myself trying to reach a balance between speaking my truth out of integrity and compromising the truth in the pursuit of kindness.  To be in integrity do you always have to call it as you see it?  My husband says “Brutal honesty is not the way”.  Maybe not, because to remain quiet is a possible option.  Or is it?